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My Death Letter to Loved Ones

Reading Time: 6 minutes Caroline Bobby is a psychotherapist who was also part of the Advantages of Age Death Dinner film. Last year, she was in so much back pain – acute chronic pain – she made a filmed self-inquiry into taking her own life over a nine-month period. And then something miraculous happened. She was booked in for […]

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Leaning into Death

Reading Time: 4 minutes As some of you know, I am deeply interested in death and dying. A few weeks ago I released the beginning of a film collaboration with my friend Andrew Hassenruck. Its intent is to keep some kind of record as I explore the possibility and option of taking my life. When I say released, I […]

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How Creating my Own Rituals Helped me Grieve for my Mother

Reading Time: 9 minutes I’m a skeleton collector. I have a large sea-washed radius from a sperm whale beached on the sands in Orkney. Part of its flipper, its hand. One of my most treasured possessions is an early Victorian piece of scrimshaw, engraved with portraits of two women – maybe the whaler’s wife and daughter or maybe his […]

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Talking about Death – would you take your child to a funeral?

Reading Time: 4 minutes I watched my friend’s five-year-old son peer down into the tiny grave. Surrounded by a group of somber people in the small churchyard, the cold wind whipping around their ankles, the sound of sobbing and noses being blown, he was just curious to see what was in the bottom of this hole in the ground. […]

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Welcome Abroad the Funeral Revolution

Reading Time: 7 minutes Advantages of Age hears from Kate Tym and Kate Dyer, the founders of the UK’s first Coffin Club. It’s a sunny morning in September in a room above an art gallery in Hastings. There are laughter, chat and a feeling of warmth and camaraderie which seems slightly odd considering each of the five people involved […]

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Death & Gratitude

Reading Time: 5 minutes The lighting of candles plays a significant part in my daily life. Each morning I stumble out of bed and fire up a tea-light. I’ve been doing it for so long that it has become a reflex, though none-the-less potent because of that. I have places in each room where candles sit and get lit. […]

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From Fear to Here

Reading Time: 5 minutes The Buddhists say two things are certain in life: We’re all going to die. We don’t know when. I shared this with a friend once, as he was leaving my house; it was one of the last things I said to him. He died suddenly shortly after. Like me, he was somewhat death-phobic, and ‘talking […]

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My first death

Reading Time: 5 minutes Unlike many people of my vintage, I’d never experienced dying up close. Last year the universe sent me on a crash course, reuniting me with my friend Bob whom I’d met at university in 1979. This isn’t just a story of death. It’s one of friendship, the kind that doesn’t need Facebook Likes to remind […]

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My First Death Café

Reading Time: 5 minutes There’s a gathering buzz around the Death Café phenomenon – there have been 3859 in 40 countries including Iceland and South Korea – and so when one was announced in my ‘hood and in the perfect location, Kensal Green Cemetery’s Dissenter’s Chapel*, I knew I had to go. After all, I have said on numerous […]